When “what you signed up for” is more than you can handle

I’ve often wondered what it would be like to be a celebrity. The glitz and glamor. Fancy cars, and multi-thousand dollar borrowed dresses. Dinners I can currently only dream of affording. I assume rich people food tastes different for us average folks. What would it be like to regularly have a chauffeur or hop on [...]

When A Friendship Abruptly Ends

In this life, one thing is certain. Loss. The past couple of years I’ve taken some pretty bad losses. I lost my stepdad, who was one of my biggest cheerleaders. Though his death was completely unexpected, I knew it was final and I could grieve and people would understand that grief comes with a loss [...]

Transracial Adoption & Confronting My Own Biases

I walked into the lobby and pushed the arrow for the elevator. The metal doors slid open and a black man was standing inside. He had baggy pants on, dreads and a flat-billed baseball hat.  Eyes wide, I quickly scanned the situation.  Is he grabbing his waist band? Does he have drugs on him? What [...]

“I’m not black.”: An intimate look at blackness

My oldest son scrunched up his nose and said, “I’m not black.” I was immediately filled with anguish and dread. My worst fear was being realized. I have been having race conversations with both of my boys for as long as I can remember. Sometimes because I had to and sometimes just to have an [...]