Transracial Adoption & Confronting My Own Biases

I walked into the lobby and pushed the arrow for the elevator. The metal doors slid open and a black man was standing inside. He had baggy pants on, dreads and a flat-billed baseball hat.  Eyes wide, I quickly scanned the situation.  Is he grabbing his waist band? Does he have drugs on him? What [...]

“I’m not black.”: An intimate look at blackness

My oldest son scrunched up his nose and said, “I’m not black.” I was immediately filled with anguish and dread. My worst fear was being realized. I have been having race conversations with both of my boys for as long as I can remember. Sometimes because I had to and sometimes just to have an [...]

The Ugly Truth About COVID Co-Parenting

Alright friends, buckle up because I'm going to give this to you straight with no chaser (I've always wanted to say that). Co-parenting is tricky business, with or without a pandemic. There's constant shuffling of children from one house to the next all while trying not to unintentionally step on a landmine filled with your [...]

Dear School Districts, It’s Not the Access

Dear School Districts, I'm writing to let you know that some students' failure to complete work is not about access, it's about disruption and anxiety about the future. Some students have parents that are still working who do not have the time or energy to then teach their child lessons that are to be learned [...]